Breakups can be one of the hardest things to go through. But, what’s worse is being in a relationship that’s toxic. Putting yourself in a bad situation and living with it can be detrimental to your mental and physical well-being. If you are recognizing your relationship as one that is negative, then you’re already recognizing the problem, which is the first and biggest step in the process. These six tips will guide you to let go of a negative relationship and help you find your inner peace once again.
Recognize the Problem
The first step to letting go of a relationship is recognizing the problem. As many of you may know…love is blind. With that, when someone is in love, they nearly ignore any signs of trouble in their relationship from abuse, to cheating, or simple miscommunication issues. For one, we advise you to take your family and friends’ opinions into consideration. If pointing out issues in your relationship is a common theme amongst your loved ones, chances are they see something that you don’t.
We invite you to take a step outside of your body and look at your relationship from the outside, putting your feelings aside. Are there any signs of trouble? If not, maybe take a look at yourself. Do you notice any changes in yourself? Do you seem less happy, more stressed, have a lower self-esteem? If you notice any of those changes and have no reason for them other than who you are with, you just may be able to recognize the problem – your relationship.
Gather Your Feelings
When you recognize problems in a relationship, you may have a ton of feelings all bundled up. Holding in your feelings and thoughts on the situation can be physically and mentally exhausting. So, try writing down your thoughts in a journal. Sometimes reading your own words on how you’re feeling will make you realize even more how depressed you may be in that relationship. A journal can turn into your best friend, especially when you aren’t comfortable talking to someone about your feelings.
Accept the Truth
When someone is in love, it may be hard to accept the fact that there are any problems in your relationship. Denial is extremely common in a toxic relationship but only acceptance will set you free. Accepting the truth about your relationship will be the clarity that you and your loved ones were hoping you’d find. With that, you will be able to make strong decisions about your relationship and eventually be able to let go of the detrimental relationship.
Put Yourself First
Your happiness and well-being should be your number one priority. If you find that your relationship is deterring you from any of that, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship status. If you’ve tried to fix the issues in your relationship and have had no progress, then you have to come to terms with yourself and come to a conclusion to end it. Being single isn’t that bad! Fight for what you want in life and most importantly, what you deserve.
Let Go & Learn
After analyzing your thoughts and understanding what you are putting yourself through, it’s best to let your relationship go. Instead of feeling bad about what happened or feeling like it was such a waste of your time, take it as an opportunity to learn from the experience. After being put in this situation, you can learn a bit about what does and doesn’t work in a relationship and what you need, desire, and deserve in a companion.
Give It Space & Time
Heartbreak is tough, there really is no way to sugar coat it. It takes time, patience and space for your heart to mend and get used to being single and independent again. With technology in full force, giving yourself space between you and your ex can be a hard thing to do. Be prepared to delete and/or block his number, unfriend or block him from your social media and even hide those old photos of you two. Any reminder or methods of contact with your ex can lead you back to that toxic relationship that you just got yourself out of.
When it comes to your heart, it takes time to put itself back together. It is perfectly normal to feel lost, sad, or alone. You just went through a lot, so be aware that it takes time to get over a relationship, especially if you were in love. It can take months, even years to be willing to put yourself out there again to start dating. And that’s okay! Before you are willing to trust someone again, you need to be happy with yourself and where you are at.